|Proper Roles and Behavior for Catholic Men|
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Only men are called by God to be ordained as priests and Bishops in the Church. And, at the present time, only men are called by God to be ordained as deacons in the Church. Men should understand this teaching and teach, encourage, and require its belief by the men, women, and children under their authority and leadership.
Not every man is called to be ordained. Many who say that they 'feel called' are not truly called by God. One cannot discern a calling to ordination merely by looking inside one's self to see if one 'feels called.' The teaching of the Church concerning who is called and who can be ordained is paramont. Also, when a man chooses marriage, he is, for the most part, choosing not to become ordained to the priesthood. A few men become ordained after marriage in the East, or in cases where a Protestant minister is married and later converts to Catholicism and is ordained a priest. But most priests and all Bishops must be chaste and unmarried.
Men who are called to the priesthood must be chaste and devout, with no strong attachments to any objective mortal sins. Such men should have a leadership ability and a willingness to devout their lives to prayer and self-denial and works for the Church. Laymen should assist the priests of their parish in various tasks, as the priest directs them, in conformity with the teachings and rules of the Church. Laymen are called to have leadership roles in the parish and in the Church, to some extent, but always with the understanding that the Church is primarily led by the Pope (assisted by the Cardinals) and the Bishops (assisted by priests and deacons).
Men who are called to be deacons should be older men, who have long been faithful in practicing the Catholic faith. Some of these will still be married, some will have lost their wives, and others might never have married. They must be chaste and faithful, with no objection to any Church teaching. Such men and their wives must not have used contraception in their marriage, nor can they have lived lives that show any rejection of Church teaching.
Laymen should treat deacons with respect and assist them in their tasks, particularly when deacons are organizing a group of laypersons to help with some merciful work, corporal or spiritual. Laymen must understand that ordained persons have an intrinsically different role than non-ordained persons, regardless of each person's personal talents and abilities.